Divorce

Divorce:

“I strongly urge you and those who advise you to face up to the reality that for most marriage problems, the remedy is not divorce but repentance. Often the cause is not incompatibility but selfishness.”-Elder Oaks, Divorce, Conference April2007

 “Second, those who are married in and attend the temple regularly have divorce rate far below the nation and world average.”-Elder Ballard, Faith, Family, Facts, and Fruits October Conference 2007

“The incidence of divorce, because of infidelity, is also significant. Many of these trials and tribulations could be avoided by obedience to God’s laws.”-Elder Cook, The Songs they Could Not Sing, Conference October 2011

“Some think that every marriage must expect to end in unhappiness and divorce, with the hopes and dreams predestined to end in a broken, sad wreck of things.

Some marriages do bend, and some will break, but we must not, because of this, lose faith in marriage nor become afraid of it.”-Elder Packer, Marriage, Conference April 1981

“It would seem that a major underlying cause of divorce is in not understanding that marriage and families are God-given and God-ordained. If we understood the full meaning we would have less divorce and its attendant unhappiness. Couples would plan for a happy marriage relationship based on divine instruction.”-Elder Haight, Marriage and Divorce, Conference April 1984

“Seeds of distrust that mature into divorce and loss of temple blessings are often sown through violation of the laws of personal purity. Don’t make that mistake.”-Elder Scott, Receive the Temple Blessings, Conference April 1999

“The fruits of testimony may be observed in the lives of the faithful. Those lifted by the power of testimony can find greater happiness and fidelity in marriage. Their testimonies are an antidote to the plague of divorce. They enjoy greater freedom, seldom enslaved to alcohol, tobacco, drugs, abuse, and other forms of self-indulgence. They find strength to deal with the problems of life.”-Elder Hales, The Importance of Receiving a Personal Testimony, Conference October 1994

 “Divorce and diminishing regard for the sanctity of human life have eroded the strength of the family—the basic unit of society. Immorality, infidelity, and promiscuity—once shunned—are now tolerated and even condoned.” –Elder Nelson, Combating Spiritual Drift-Our Global Pandemic

 “I stand before you today to accuse many of the husbands and fathers who are within the sound of my voice and throughout the world of failing in your two major God-given responsibilities. The reason for most of the problems we find in the world today must be laid at your door. Divorce, infidelity, dishonesty, the use of drugs, deterioration of family life, loss of identity, instability and unhappiness have resulted from the lack of your leadership in the home.

Husbands and fathers, could we again remind you of your role and your responsibility?”-Elder Perry, Father-Your Role, Your Responsibility, Conference October 1977

Position Statement:                                                                            

            This world has become a very messed up and dark place with couples fleeing from a problem instead of becoming mature enough to try and work things out. I have seen the effects of divorce, I have seen men, women, children and relatives of all hurt and upset by the divorce of a loved one. Thankfully our church encourages men and women to do all they can before they allow such a thing to happen, and that the atonement gives us the understanding that we get to be together forever when sealed and married in a temple. I am so grateful for temples, because they bring something to a marriage that a civil marriage cannot, which allows the thinking of the couple to stray to separation when things become bad.